Saturday 5 December 2015

TEN TYPES OF PROSTITUTES IN NAIROBI

Let’s not even hide it. Nairobi is a ‘Malaya Republic’. Prostitution is still illegal and stigmatized in Kenya, but still it is not unusual for an independent-minded upper-class woman to become a courtesan
In Nairobi, there’s a bewildering variety of whores, We are in Sin City, but hey, this is not judgment day so let’s get to see which types you are most likely to encounter the capital .
Escort Agency Prostitutes
Like independent call girls, employees of escort agencies work in private locations or offices and charge relatively high prices. You’ll mostly find them in high end locations outside town such as Valley Arcade, Hurlingham and Westlands. They are generally hotter, satisfying and more safe because getting tested is a requirement for them.
‘Mboch ‘ Prostitutes
This form of prostitution has just emerged. Bachelors hire a yummy mboch who does the cleaning and also gets paid for sex. Even married men do the same behind their wives backs. Apart form the normal salary, a mboch is paid bonuses for performing ‘D’-sucking and bendover stunts for ‘Baba wa Nyumba’. Most mboches actually, even those who had never imagined selling their bodies never refuse this kind of arrangement. They get ushered into it by the horny men that have employed them and the habit becomes engrained in their DNA.
River Road Prostitutes
These women are located in downtown Nairobi in shady brothels that are dedicated locations where guys pay for sex. The prices they charge are "moderate,". These riveroad prostitutes also endure "moderate exploitation" since they have to give part of their earnings to the brothel owners or the pimp mama in charge.Yes, these women have a bonafide pimp who set the rules, controls their actions, and takes their earnings.
Bar maids
Because of their low-to-moderate wages, most barmaids in Nairobi have no qualms about doubling as prostitutes. These sex workers make initial contact with men while at work then make arrangements to have sex with them at separate locations. I explained more on why you should never date a Kenyan barmaid here 
2015 11 01 00.22.45Streetwalker
Streetwalkers earn relatively little money and are vulnerable to exploitation. Not surprisingly, they report less job satisfaction and get paid less than "indoor prostitutes" (bar workers, brothel workers, or call girls).
Streetwalking is also notoriously dangerous. Some get beaten by clients or get exploited by police officers, Their services are mostly performed in the client’s car or at a cheap lodging in town.
Estate Prostitutes
Estate prostitutes work for themselves in their houses, charge relatively fair prices, and stay away from the public eye. They likely advertise their services online, with a list of do’s and don’t’s and they also get to keep their profits since they're self-employed. They also have other jobs. That’s right. Estate prosititues are are flatbacks. A flatback is one who does an honest days work for an honest days dollar in the world of prostitution. They are interested in a fair and even exchange as agreed upon by themselves and the customer Don’t be surprised to find out that the hot accountant in your accompany also doubles as a whore.
Socialites
Vera Sidika, Huddah Monroe, you can name the all. They all sell their cookie for the dollar. A socialite is just a decorated whore, Socialites record greater job satisfaction since they are free from the arbitrary regulations inflicted on their lower class sisters. They get to have the say in how things are done in the bedroom and also have the luxury of flying business class to shag wealthy Viagra popping grandpas abroad.
Sponsor babes
The numbers in this category are increasing by the day. College girls and young ladies who are in their first jobs are constantly looking for rich men to finance their lifestyles in exchange for sex. Even ladies that are in serious relationships are secretly seeing rich men on the side. It has become a lifestyle for these girls. They pride themselves in it while rolling with the mantra “Kama hauna kitu jitoe” . Woe unto the broke niggas. It’s survival for the fittest out here.
Massage Parlor Prostitutes
Almost all massage parlors offer ‘happy ending’ services nowadays. In fact the massage is just some form of foreplay to trigger the customer to pay for the end product. When you go for a genuine massage, the girls ‘touch touch’ you in all the right places then when your thirst levels are up, they inform you about other ‘special packages’. The temptation is high so you just go ahead and pay for the B.J or quickie anyway.
Male prostitutes
Yes, there are men too whose life goals are ‘kulishwa na wanawake’ in exchange for sex. I don’t know how they do it. Some even have no homes. Some have no homes. They just jump from one woman’s house to the next.

Sunday 29 November 2015

IMAGINE IF THIS WOMAN WOULD BE YOUR SECRETARY (TEMPTATION PHOTO & VIDEO)



Many secretaries go to work dressed to kill and that’s why their bosses fall into temptation.

A case in point is this lady said to be working as a secretary, who decided to flaunt her curvaceous figure by wearing a black sexy dress that left her big b()()ty well exposed for all to see.


Just watch the video below; what if you were the boss?


THIS IS HOW A SEXIEST SOCIALITE TEASES MEN IN KENYA



Kisii’s sexiest socialite, Corazon Kwamboka, has decided to tease Kenyan men days after landing in the Country from Uganda, where she had gone to satisfy a youthful tycoon.

Just feast your eyes on this.


 

Friday 27 November 2015

VIDEO SHOWING OBAMA SERVES A THANKSGIVING DINNER IN WASHINGTON




President Barack Obama serves Thanksgiving dinner at a homeless center in Washington, D.C the day before Wednesday, 25 November 2015.

Monday 23 November 2015

HERE IS THE GEOGRAPHY OF DIFFERENT WOMEN



1.         Between 18 and 20, a woman is like Africa, half discovered, half wild, naturally
beautiful with fertile deltas..

2.         Between 21 and 30, a woman is like America, well developed and open to trade especially for someone with cash.

3.         Between 31 and 35, she is like India, very hot, relaxed and convinced of her own beauty.

4.         Between 36 and 40, a woman is like France. Gently aging but still a warm and desirable place to visit.
5.         Between 41 and 50, she is like Yugoslavia, lost the war – haunted by past mistakes. Massive reconstruction is now necessary.

6.         Between 51 and 60, she is like Russia, very wide and borders are un patrolled. The frigid climate keeps people away.

7.         Between 61 and 70, a woman is like Mongolia , with a glorious and all conquering past but alas, no future.

8.         After 70, they become Afghanistan. Most everyone knows where it is, but no one wants to go there.

9.         (I’ve alsoafter 70 heard “, she’s like Australia; everyone knows it’s down there, but nobody really care…”)


THE GEOGRAPHY OF A MAN

1. Between 15 and 70, a man is like Iraq – ruled by a dick

Thursday 19 November 2015

VIDEO SHOWING TOP 20 OF MOST CURVY AFRICAN CELEBRITIES



Thursday 12 November 2015

LIST OF MINISTERS INAUGURATED BY PRESIDENT BUHARI OF +234

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After five months without ministers, President Muhammadu Buhari of Nigeria has finally inaugurated 36 ministers that were recently screened and cleared by the Senate.
The 36 ministers were also given their portfolios as the former governor of Lagos state Babatunde Fashola stole the show with his appointment as the new minister of power, works and housing.
The presidency had earlier confirmed that the inauguration of the ministers will be carried out on Wednesday, November 11.
From a statement released by Femi Adesina, the special adviser on media and publicity to the president, it was revealed that the ministers were allowed to invite only two guests for their inauguration.
However, just before the ministers were given portfolios, they took the oaths of office in the council chambers of the Presidential Villa.

BELOW IS THE LIST OF SELECTED MINISTERS.
Osagie Ehanire (Edo state) – Minister of State, Health
Aisha Abubakar (Sokoto state) – State minister for Industry, trade and Investment
James Ocholi (Kogi state) – State minister of Labour and Employment
Dr Ibe Kachikwu (Delta state) – State minister for petroleum resources. Buhari remains petroleum minister.
Mustapha Baba Shehuri (Borno) –  State Minister for Power, Works and Housing.
Heineken Lokpobiri (Bayelsa state) – State minister for Agriculture and Rural Development.
Claudius Daramola (Ondo state) – State minister of Niger Delta.
Ibrahim Usman Jibril (Nasarawa state) – State minister of Environment.
Engr Suleiman Adamu (Jigawa) – Minister of Water Resources
Zainab Shamsuna Ahmed (Kaduna state) – Minister of State Budget and National Planning.
Pastor Usani Uguru (Cross River) – Minister of Niger Delta.
Aisha Jummai Al-Hassan (Taraba state) – Minister of Women Affairs
 Isaac Adewole (Osun state) – Minister of Health
Adebayo Shittu (Oyo state) – Minister of Communication.
Lai Mohammed (Kwara state) – Minister of Information
Masur Maman Dan Ali (Zamfara state) – Minister of Defence
Abdulrahaman Danbazau (Kano) – Minister of Interior
Udoma Udo Udoma (Akwa Ibom) – Minister for Budget and National Planning
Amina Mohammed (Gombe state) – Minister for Environment
Hadi Sirika (Katsina state) – Minister of Aviation
Solomon Dalong (Plateau state) – Minister for Youth and Sports.
Rotimi Amaechi (Rivers state) – Minister of Transport
Ogbonnaya Onu (Ebonyi state) – Minister of Science and Technology.
Audu Ogbeh (Benue state) – Minister of Agriculture and Natural Resources.
Babatunde Raji Fashola (Lagos state) – Minister of Power,Works & Housing.
Muhammadu Bello (Adamawa state) – Minister of Federal Capital Territory.
Kemi Adeosun (Ogun state) – Minister of Finance.
Abubakar Bawa Bwari (Niger) – Minister of State, Solid Minerals
Kayode Fayemi (Ekiti state) – Minister of Solid Minerals.
Chris Ngige (Anambra state) – Minister of Labour and employment.
Okechukwu Enelamah (Abia state) – Minister of Industry and Trade.
Anthony Gozie Anwuka (Imo state) – State minister of Education.
Adamu Adamu (Bauchi state) – Minister of Education.
Khadija Abba Ibrahim (Yobe state) – Minister of State Foreign Affairs.
Geoffrey Onyeama (Enugu state) – Minister of foreign affairs
Barrister Abubakar Malami (Kebbi state) – Minister of Justice.

Sunday 8 November 2015

TP MAZEMBE WINS CAF CHAMPIONS vs ALGER U.S.M. SEE FULL DETAILS HERE

TP Mazembe are seeking a fifth CAF Champions League crown.
TP Mazembe.
TP Mambe won CAF Champions league after bitting USM Algers 2-0 in 19th edition held at TBD Stadium, which the Referee : Bakary Papa Gassama 1st assistant : Jean Claude Birumushahu 2nd assistant : Yahaya Mahamadou

This is 5th trophy Mazembe won in this league.


EARLIER ARTICLE BEFORE THE MATCH
For the second year running, clubs from Algeria and the Democratic Republic of Congo will contest the CAF Champions League final and curiously, neither country is fielding the same team as they did in 2014. Last year, ES Setif and AS Vita made it to the final; this year, USM Alger and TP Mazembe will tussle over the title, which Mazembe are hot favourites to win.The Congolese club is packed with superstars including Zambian midfielder Rainford Kalaba and Tanzanian striker Mbwana Samatta, who is joint-second leading scorer for the tournament. Samatta has scored six times so far and needs just two more goals to take the golden boot. By comparison, USM's best performer, Youcef Belaili, is two goals behind and will not get the chance to catch up. Belaili was banned for two years after failing a post-match drug test during the group stage. Just on those two players, the distinction between the two teams can be drawn.USM do not have big names but showed character in reaching this final without any star performers. They will certainly be depending on home ground advantage to take an early lead. On the way to the final, they won six consecutive qualifying and group games at home and scored 14 goals before a goalless draw in the semifinal second leg. The Algerians can't afford that kind of lethargy against TP Mazembe, who have lifted the Champions League cup four times before and are gunning to join Zamalek with five trophies as the second-most successful club on the continent.

Saturday 7 November 2015

WATCH/DOWNLOAD AIYOLA OFFICIAL VIDEO FROM HARMINIZE




Harmonize is one of the artists signed under WCB Wasafi Record Label which is under Diamond Platnumz. The video was shot in Jo'burg South Africa by Director Nick Roux.

Sunday 1 November 2015

OVER 1M KIDS IN UK GROWS WITHOUT FATHER

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Natalie now; aged two with mum Wendie

‘I FEEL LIKE THERE’S A PART OF ME MISSING’

Natalie Turner-Mitchell, 26, is a mental health support assistant and lives in east London. She says: “Being taunted about not having a dad by kids at school used to feel like a stab to the heart. My mum Wendie, 52, has always been vague about what happened. All I know is that soon after she became pregnant with me she told my soldier dad Mark*, but then he was deployed to Iraq. They wrote a few times, but then the letters stopped and we never heard from him again.
By the time I was two, she’d met my stepdad David* and they had a daughter, Sarah*, now 25. Three years later Lucy*, now 22, was born. By then it seemed that their family was complete and I was just a spare part, as I was always aware that I had a different dad.
This was made worse because when my half-sisters and I used to fight, they’d say hurtful things like: “At least I know my dad.” So when I was six I started to write letters to him, which I thought Mum sent to his army barracks. I’d begin by saying although he didn’t know me, I’d like to meet him. I found the letters in a box four years later. I felt so let down and upset with my mum for not sending them.
At the age of eight, I remember watching a programme on TV and I heard my dad’s name. Mum casually mentioned the man being interviewed was him. I still think about that snapshot of his face.
I discovered I was pregnant at 16 after a short relationship that had ended by then, but I couldn’t stand the thought of my child going through the same pain I had felt growing up without a father. So, even though my ex wanted us to keep it, I had an abortion as I was convinced he’d abandon us.
Once I hit adulthood, I wrote to my dad again at the army base, asking him to meet me. But my letters were returned unopened. I felt so confused – had he sent them back? After that, I didn’t contact him again. I think what upsets me the most is not knowing whether I have other siblings. Thankfully, Sarah, Lucy and I have become good friends now we’re older.
Not knowing my dad has affected my relationships with men, too. When I was 19 I went out with a man 20 years older. Everyone told me he was a father figure and I knew it wouldn’t last because of his age. I haven’t had a relationship since and can’t get close to people for fear they’ll hurt me.
I know my mum loves me, but I still feel like I’ve been rejected my whole life. Seven years ago, I started cutting myself and was diagnosed with depression, so I rely on antidepressants to stabilise my moods. If my real dad had stuck around, I’d like to think I wouldn’t feel this way and would have been a much happier person.
Now I understand it must have been difficult for my mum and I hope one day we can talk about it. I’m not angry with Dad, how can I be when I don’t know the full story? I just want him to know I’m here if he wants to meet me. If he doesn’t, at least I’ll know for sure and I’ll be able to move on with my life.”
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With mum Susanne in 2004; Sabine now

‘MY MUM WAS A BRILLIANT MOTHER AND FATHER’

Sabine Gruchet, 39, is a plus-size model and presenter and lives in Berkshire with her husband. She says: “My dad left me and my mum Susanne when I was just three. But when I was finally reunited with him in 2012, I soon realised his absence hadn’t harmed me.
My mum and her twin sister Nanette brought me up in Sydney, Australia, teaching me to be fearless, strong and independent. She told me that she and my dad had a great relationship, so it was a shock when he just upped and left in 1979. But she never said horrible things about him in front of me – even when he came back to be with my mum when I was 15, only to leave again after just a few weeks when his new partner wanted him back.
I found his return overwhelming and he showered me with affection, but it was weird because I’d never had a father figure before. However, when he left I felt so deflated and very sad for my mum, too.
Although he didn’t try to contact us again, my mum always encouraged me to look for him. In my 20s I searched on the internet and scoured directories, but it was like he’d vanished without a trace. I never let it get to me, though, as living with my mum and aunt was brilliant.
We’d go out together at the weekends and had so much fun. I loved our girl power. And as decisions didn’t have to be fought over by two parents, everything went pretty smoothly. Of course, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t jealous of my friends who had their dads around, but I bet they were envious of my two ‘mums’, too.
Being raised by such strong women also gave me the courage to be confident in relationships. If I ever felt like I was being mistreated, I simply packed my bags.
When Mum died from breast, lymph node and cervical cancer aged 55 in 2005, I was devastated. Her death really affected me and although I carried on as normal, inside I was shattered.
Four years later, I finally felt strong enough to go through her things and I found an old letter from my dad, written 27 years earlier. He told my mum that even though they weren’t together, he still loved her. She hadn’t acted on it, but I found a number for the address he’d written from in France, and called him. Miraculously, he was still there.
We talked for 15 minutes. He asked how my mum was and sounded heartbroken when I told him she’d died. I suggested he could buy me a plane ticket from Australia to France so we could meet. But he replied: ‘I won’t, but thanks for getting in touch.’ I felt so numb, I didn’t know what to say.
We didn’t speak after that for two years, but in 2012 when I moved to England, where my husband is from, I decided to try again. This time, my dad agreed to meet in France.
I went with my now-husband and bawled my eyes out as soon as I saw Dad, expecting him to do the same. But he only turned to my partner and said how lovely it was to meet him. I was stunned and furious. What about me? I didn’t say anything, but felt crushed with disappointment.
Since then, I’ve worked hard for us to forge a relationship, and visit him every couple of months. I do feel sad it’s always me making the effort. I can tell from his eyes he loves me, but when I try to hug him, he stands awkwardly. I think he still feels guilty for leaving us. But some good has come out of it – I have a half-brother Julian, 33, and three half-nieces, and we share a bond.
In an ideal world, every child would grow up with a father, but my mum had a rare mix of qualities – the ability to discipline, yet be soft, too. Everything that’s happened in my life has made me who I am, so how can I begrudge my dad for leaving?”

AM NOT MATERIALISTIC BUT I CANT KEEP A MAN




Am in my late 20s about completing my MMED. Ever since I got out of my first relationship with my first and the only man I have ever loved I have not been able to keep other men coming my way.

Am not really a bad person, am not even materialistic because even as an undergraduate I was working. No man I have ever dated that doesn ’ t not wish to settle down with me but one thing will lead to another and there will be change in plan.

In fact am losing hope of ever getting married may be I should just get pregnant for my first love and be a single mother. Right now am single and I have been for more than a year. Please do u have any advice for me?

Thanks.

MOST THINGS YOU DIDN'T KNEW ABOUT SEX

MOST people know the basics of having sex and some of the strange facts about our bodies during intercourse.
But many won't know any of these crazy but completely true things about sex, so check them out and learn more about yourself.

1. Majority of women reach peak libido around ovulation

A survey completed by 115 women, aged 23 to 45 by the University of Virginia, found that women reported much more interest in sex and greater satisfaction from orgasm during their mid-cycle compared to pre-menstrually.

2. What do sneezes and orgasms have in common?

Sneezes, along with orgasms, are the only physiological responses that can't be controlled.

3. Like breasts, testes can also increase in size during sex

Many people know that breasts swell in size during intercourse but many people don't know that the testes also increase in size by 50 per cent.
The increase is because of vasocongestion, which causes the blood the flow and the vessels to dilate, causing the testicles to grow according to WebMd.
Both sneezes and orgasms can't be controlled because they're physiological responses
Both sneezes and orgasms can't be controlled because they're physiological responses Getty

4. The clitoris contains twice as many nerve fibres as the penis

The clitoris is incredibly sensitive and contains and a whopping 8,000 nerve fibres compared to the penis which only has around 4,000.

5. Men release millions of sperm every time they ejaculate

According to Dr Hilary MacQueen of the Department of Life, Health, and Chemical services at the Open University, on average men release 80 to 300 million sperm each time they ejaculate.

6. Only 30 per cent of women orgasm from penetrative sex

According to sexpert Madeline Castellanos M.D., a massive 70 per cent of women require direct stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse in order to reach climax.
Men's nipples become erect too when they are aroused
Men's nipples become erect too when they are aroused Getty

7. It is very common for men to get erect nipples when they're sexually aroused

This may come to a surprise to a few but it's not just women that experience erect nipples when they're sexually aroused.
A massive 60 per cent of men experience nipple erection, this is because the muscles inside and underneath contract and the hormone oxytocin is released.

8. Masturbation can relieve depression

Often masturbation is frowned upon but two scientists at the University of Sydney have found that there are a number of health benefits to doing it.
The opinion piece by Anthony Santella, a public health scientist and his colleague Spring Chenoa Cooper a senior lecturer revealed that "masturbation also improves immune functioning by increasing cortisol levels.
"These can regulate immune functioning in small doses and reduce depression by increasing the amount of endorphins in the bloodstream."

White woman are reportedly more likely to have an orgasm than black women
White woman are reportedly more likely to have an orgasm than black women Getty

9. White women are more likely to reach orgasm than black women

According to a study on Sexual Dysfunction in the USA, which used a sample of 1,749 women aged between 18-59, white women are more likely to experience pleasure than black women.
This is because black women tend to have higher rates of low sexual desire and therefore makes it more difficult for them to orgasm.

10. Some women can achieve orgasm through breast stimulation alone

Many reports have found that women can orgasm through breast and nipple stimulation and according to a study by Dr Herbert Otto, the nipple orgasm is actually very common.
Dr Otto claims that it's the second most common form of orgasm and of the 213 women who took part in the study, 29 per cent had experienced one.

Thursday 29 October 2015

RESULTS, TOP SCORERS, AND STANDING, TANZANIA PREMIER LEAGUE (V.P.L)




SCIENTIFIC REASONS, WHY YOU SHOULD HAVE SEX EVERYDAY



1. It could lower his risk of prostate cancer. According to a study from Harvard Medical School, men who ejaculated more often reduced their risk of developing prostate cancer by 22 percent. Researchers still don't know why that is, but hey, if you needed one more reason to hit that tonight, having your guy avoid getting cancer is a pretty solid one. 
2. Your chance of getting a cold goes way, way down. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that people who had sex at least twice a week released more antigens like immunoglobulin A, which helps fight off colds and the flu, so just think of how healthy you'd be if you had sex all seven days. You'd be basically immortal is what I'm trying to say. 
3. It keeps you looking super young and confident. In a study by Scottish researcher and clinical neuropsychologist David Weeks, judges guessed the ages of 3,500 European and American women and men, and found that the people whose age was underestimated by seven to 12 years were also reporting having sex three times a week, in comparison to the control group which was doing it twice a week. They also found these young-looking babes to be really comfortable and confident about their sexual identity. Win, win, win, win. 
4. It'll help get rid of your heinous menstrual cramps. study done in 2000 found that 9 percent of 1,900 women were masturbating solely to get rid of their menstrual cramps. There's no way that many masturbating women are wrong. 
5. It could make you crazy-fertile, if you're trying to conceive. A new study in Fertility and Sterility found that having sex every day could help prepare your immune system for pregnancy, which is critical in terms of increasing your chances of having a baby. 
6. It lowers your blood pressure and your ability to stress out over basically nothing. A2005 study found that people who had penile-vaginal intercourse (their words, not mine) had lower blood pressure and better stress responses than people who didn't (or those who masturbated or had non-penetrative sex), which in theory would mean they were also way more chill. Never a bad thing. 
7. Sex can actually make you a super genius. Separate studies by researchers at the University of Maryland and Konkuk University in Seoul, South Korea, found that mice and rats who had sex more often were also less stressed, and since stress makes your brain less able to function, that made them more intelligent thinkers. 
So in theory, having sex every single day would make you fertile, live longer, never get sick, and have the brain of a genius. Basically, sex makes you a superhero. That's my takeaway from this.

10 THINGS MEN WISH WOMEN TO KNOW ABOUT SEX






Freud called female sexuality "the dark continent"; if that's true, male sexuality could qualify as the dark planet. But when it comes to sex, guys are simple, right? Not true. The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, and as such, what you see and hear is typically the role, not the reality. It's no wonder, in trying to please the actor, a woman loses sight of a guy's true identity. Here are 10 "unmasking" facts you may want to know:
1. We Respond to Praise
It's believed that men are so consumed by our libido that we have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look), and after (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look naked). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Try to be extra affirming about those sensitivities.
2. We Fear Intimacy…
…but not for the reason you think! Studies have shown that boys are more affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age. At that time, social repression begins—of words, thoughts, feelings—and our desire for human connection goes underground. So taboo is this desire for intimacy that its possibility can terrify men—not because it's smothering, but because we realize how desperate we are for it. What's a woman to do? First, understand that your guy's hasty retreat post-sex may be about his own shock at how much he craves a connection with you (and how much he's denied it in life). Then, retreat a little yourself. This gives him time to see that his boyhood habits are, in fact, perfectly manly.
3. We Appreciate Sex for Sex's Sake
Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a little "throw-me-down sex" is the right medicine. According to Joe Kort, PhD, a psychotherapist and sexologist, "Men want their wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. For men, it's not about dominating a woman, but ravishing her." On occasion, try letting him ravish you.
4. We Are Not Just Our…
The penis gets all the press, but men have "many erogenous zones," says psychologist Melodie Schaefer, PsyD. "Men tend not to correct women because they're afraid women will shut down and not touch them at all. But there are many places a woman should touch." Like the chest, the inner thighs and face. Two other key areas: Gently gripping a man's testicles can be a real turn-on, as it blends control with release. Also, stimulating the perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, will heighten pleasure during oral sex.
5. We Encourage Fantasies
"Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them," says Dr. Kort. Similarly, Dr. Schaefer reports that men wish women would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not to judge the other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized you and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you're both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, Dr. Kort recommends asking the author a key question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, its themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.
6. We Like It When You Talk
Talking during sex stimulates more than our ears. What kind of talk? Dirty, praising and instructive are great starts. As amusing as it may sound, a woman's words can make a guy feel as potent and virile as a Roman gladiator, even if he's a suburban banker.
7. We Need Your Honesty
Sex can solve the stresses of a relationship, but it's often where the stresses show up. If we complain about a lack of sex (or your doing certain things only on our birthday), we may be overlooking serious issues that underpin such withholding. We need you to enlighten us. The male ego is often tied to sex, so it's easy for us to dismiss bedroom problems as female disinterest rather than issues we have a part in. Avoiding these problems, however, only perpetuates your feeling unseen and our frustration.
8. We Enjoy the Dance
Men like a good quest; unfortunately, these days, there are so few. But romance earns that distinction. Allow us to court you; make us deserve your desire. Dr. Kort makes an additional point: "Emotional intimacy is about closeness, but sustaining sexual desire demands a certain amount of distance." How do couples strike this tricky balance? By allowing each partner to have what he calls "separate sexuality": a sexual life that doesn't include, but doesn't betray, the other. "For him, that might mean allowing his wife to use toys or letting other men look at her; for her, it might be permitting him to watch pornography in order to experience a fantasy." Such indulgences help maintain the balance of desire and devotion for both parties.
9. We Can Explain Pornography
Finding a spouse using pornography is a top reason couples seek counsel, says Dr. Kort, but it shouldn't be overreacted to or pathologized. A few things to clear up: 1. Sex addicts represent only 4 percent of the population, so it's unlikely your man is one. 2. Because childhood experiences influence sexuality as an adult, people are very idiosyncratic about what turns them on. In other words, says Dr. Kort, "no woman can, nor should she, be everything to a man." Still, the question remains: How does a woman not take pornography personally? First, determine if your mate is compulsive, or can only have sex, with pornography. If so, you may want to seek counseling. If not, Dr. Kort recommends taking the secrecy out of pornography by discussing it. Use the lens of "what about it turns him on versus what turns you off." That way, a dialogue is created that allows for honesty, dignity and closeness.
10. We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think
Men are accused of being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this. "Men see sex as a celebration," says Dr. Schaefer. "They wish women would take more of a 'carpe diem' approach to it. We move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. It's easy to allow demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords us. On the long list of priorities, it should not be on the bottom rung." If that doesn't make you want to "seize the day" (or something else), consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the "bonding hormone," bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.

DID YOU KNOW? HUMAN VAGINA CAN TALK TO YOU. HERE ARE OTHER 11 THINGS VAGINA COULD DO


​It cleans itself. ​That's what vaginal discharge is for, after all. Having a clear or white-ish discharge is perfectly healthy, and it flushes out bacteria and old cells to prevent any unwanted pathogens from entering the uterus. So there's no need for you to come at your vagina with scented soaps—only baby shampoo, please—as you don't want to upset its pH balance. And for the love of all things healthy, don't douche. You'll only regret it.  
​It can change color. ​Everyone knows that va-jay-jays come in all shapes and sizes, thanks to genetics, but just because it starts as one color doesn't mean it'll stay that way. "During sexual arousal or pregnancy, blood flow to the genitals changes and that can result in a color change," usually making it a deeper, darker color, saysMichael Krychman, M.D., gynecologist and executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health. Then there's menopause to consider—Dr. Krychman says the loss of estrogen during this stage of a woman's life can also cause the vagina to change color, usually a lighter or more dull shade than before. While we applaud its chameleon-like capabilities, the color versatility is normal and nothing to be concerned about. 
​It can get bigger. ​When you're ready to get busy with your man, there's a lot of blood flowing down to the nether regions, and blood vessels in the vagina become dilated. "This causes the vagina and genitopelvic area to become enlarged, which is known as vaginal tenting," says Dr. Krychman. So basically, the more turned on you are, the larger your vagina could potentially grow. 
It can get stronger. ​No, we're not here to tell you to do more Kegels (you already know they can give you a better orgasm). What we want to discuss is your pelvic floor—about 1 in 3 women experience some form of pelvic floor muscle dysfunction (PFMD), and those who do deal with bladder control issues, urine leakage, and pain. And it's not just a problem for older women or those who've had children—Leslie Rickey, M.D., fellowship director of female pelvic medicine at Yale University, says she sees it in patients across every age, including young women in their early 20s who haven't had kids yet.  
The good news is that you can do something about it. "Pelvic floor exercises have been shown to be extremely effective as a first-line therapy for bladder control issues," says Dr. Rickey. You can either visit a pelvic floor physical therapist, or do them on your own—there's even an FDA-certified app,PeriCoach, to guide you. "It's like going to the gym for your vagina," explains Dr. Rickey. "There's a small device you can buy that goes in the vagina, and it measures the contraction of your pelvic floor muscles. It'll provide suggestions for how to both strengthen the contraction ​and ​the release, which is equally as important—you want to be at a baseline level where your pelvic floor can be completely relaxed." 
Otherwise, she suggests cutting down on caffeine, not over-saturating your body with too much water (the Institute of Medicine recommends women drink nine cups per day), and even training your bladder to wait longer between bathroom breaks. And no, it won't cause an infection if you wait about three hours—the average amount of time Dr. Rickey says you should be able to wait when drinking the recommended amount of water—between visits, she says. 
​It can talk to you. ​From whether you're in baby-making mode or about to get your period, to if there's a serious health risk like cancer potentially going on, your vagina has a lot of important things it's ready to tell you. You just have to listen. If you notice something different-than-usual is going on, it's usually best to head to the doc to get it checked out.  
​It could save lives. ​There's currently a clinical trial testing the safety of endometrial regenerative cells (ERC), or "stem cells," to treat congestive heart failure patients. These stem cells are extracted from menstrual blood and grown to generate different types of cells in the body. In this case, the stem cells are made into muscle cells of the heart. Right now it's just an experimental foreign study, and not something that is being done with any regularity, but you never know—someday it could help patients suffering from heart failure.
It protects itself. ​In case you were wondering, "the vagina isn't endless," says Dr. Rickey. So there's no chance something—a tampon, condom, menstrual cup, whatever—is going to get lost. "The vagina connects to the uterus, but the cervix acts like a barrier between the two. It would be very difficult for anything to get through the small opening that ​is ​there (that's how sperm get through, FYI)." 
​It can trap a penis. ​We're not kidding. It's known as penis captivus—a fitting name, if you ask us, as it literally holds a penis captive when it occurs. Dr. Krychman notes that it's an extremely rare phenomena, but it has been reported in several case studies. Basically, what happens is that during intercourse, "the pelvic muscles of the vagina clamp down on the penis much more firmly than usual, which can make it difficult or impossible to remove the penis from the vagina." It might make an extremely awkward (not to mention difficult to navigate) trip to the doctor, but Dr. Krychman says if this happens to call 911 right away, stay calm, and lie very still until help arrives. 
​It can have four different kinds of orgasm. ​Last time we checked, guys could only have one. That's not the case for women, as we experience orgasms differently. For us, orgasms can be divided into four categories: clitoral, vaginal, blended, and multiple. A breakdown, according to Dr. Krychman: 
  • Clitoral: When you orgasm simply through the stimulation of the clitoris, without vaginal penetration. 
  •  Vaginal: An orgasm that's a result of vaginal penetration, primarily, with little or no clitoral stimulation. 
  • Blended: When you have clitoral, vaginal, and cervical stimulation (cervical stimulation can be painful for some women and pleasurable for others).
  • Multiple: What we consider the holy grail, or when a woman slightly relaxes after one orgasm—but not completely—and is then aroused again, resulting in "multiple experiences of orgasmic pleasure in rapid succession." 
You can live with two of them. ​It's rare, but it's possible to be born with uterus didelphys—a condition that essentially causes the vagina to split into two separate cavities. Along with it comes two uteruses and two cervixes, but a "normal" amount of Fallopian tubes and eggs. It also means having two periods every month if the egg in one uterus is released before an egg in the other.

 

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